Being in a relationship is Good and beautiful. Having someone to call, check up on you regularly would make one feel so special and appreciated. However that is not all to being in a relationship and a Christian relationship for that matter.We are going to discuss on how to build not just any relationship but a Christian relationship.
1.Find yourself:
Finding oneself is the first step to a Godly and healthy relationship. Before entering into a relationship, you must find out the kind of person you are that is your true identity This can only be possible through finding yourself in God.God has the manuscript for every life and He alone can Help you discover yourself.Build a character that is befitting a Good and solid relationship. The reason for self discovery is so has to appreciate yourself and your own values so as not to lose your God given values and virtues.Develop a strong companion with God through reading your Bible and praying.Either learn an handiwork or obtain a degree so as to be an assist and not a liability.
2.**Seek the Lord **
It is important to seek the face of the lord before proceeding into a relationship. This is because God knows what Man cannot know and has he has our BEST intentions at heart he will give Us the best according to His Good will .In seeking the face of the Lord make sure you have a way God Talk to you.God will speak to you in a manner you are familiar with by which you will understand. God speak to Man in diverse ways.Through Dreams,The word of God,visions, still small voice,inner witness and so on.Develop a communication mode with God.Any relationship which intend to a Godly marriage must be taken serious. It must be laid on a foundation with Jesus Christ at the center.When seeking the face of the Lord concerning relationship, go with an open and receptive heart without having conclude your personal decision.
- **Healthy Communication **
Parties need to have healthy communication. Communication is essential to a strong and healthy relationship. Each party should be able to share challenge facing him or her as such lessen the burden on the mind.Parties should communicate with each other on like and dislikes.Healthy communication lead to proper understanding of the other party.It is important to note to the communication should be healthy for the spiritual well being of the other.Avoid conversation that will arouse lustful Act.
4.**pray together **
There is a saying that a praying home is a surviving home.couples should learn how to pray together even before marriage so as to get used to it when they get into marriage. Many challenges will surely arise in relationship but prayers will keep the relationship going. Distance should not be a barrier to prayer. For long distance relationship, parties can pray via mobile Phone or via whatsapp. The duration may not be so long but the fact the parties prayed is healthy. Praying together helps believers subdue the works of the flesh that may arise.It makes parties conscious of the presence of God and thus walk in God's light.
4.Avoid been alone in a dark place
Staying in a dark and lonely place is not ideal for a Christian relationship because it can prompt ungodly feelings and lust.Couples should endeavour to meet in an open place or not so open place. - Share the word of God with each other.
Couples should regularly share with each other the word of God for edification. The word of God will help the parties ,even though the parties love themselves, love God more.This also bring in the consciousness of the presence of God. - **Avoid physical attachment **
God want us to avoid physical attachment which can arouse lustful desire.parties should avoid intimate moment and preserve such intimate moment for marriage. Hebrew 13 :4 says that Marriage is honourable in all and the bed undecided but whitening and adulterers God will judge.Any form of intimacy should be preserve till marriage.
7.Get a Godly mentor who will advise both parties. When conflict or issue arise
Mentorship is Good for a Godly relationship especially where a matured and Godly couples is involved. Before choosing a mentor,one should prayerfully chose.Also check for someone who is knowledgeable in that aspect.Such mentor is someone who can watch the parties back and also stand in gap in the place of prayer.In choosing a mentor,parties should have a consensus so it would not be one-sided.