A relationship is formed or built by two individuals who decided to embark on a journey set on emotions. At the start, in most cases, each of these individuals hardly see an end in sight except, of course, if there’s an ulterior motive behind their coming-together. Love is the foundation upon which every union [that is bound to last] ought to be set – I speak for the serious ones though. But along the line, love does not just seem to be enough, and then the two lovebirds grow weary of sharing each other’s company; a boundary is set in between as the ‘love bond’ is broken. This doesn’t just happen; there are a number of factors that could mar a relationship, and some of these I shall henceforth discuss in this article.
Dishonesty: Trust is the bond of love; it forms the basis upon which your partner shares her intimacy with you. However, in cases where dishonesty thrive, the flow of vivid emotions suffers a momentary breakdown which could signal the beginning of an end. And the truth is; the more dishonest a person is to another [in a relationship], the more far apart they are from one another even if they decide to continue with the relationship.
Lack of commitment: It is often said that it is one thing to get to the top and another thing entirely to stay right there. That a lady finally agreed to your advances does not mean you should ‘step off the gas’- what’s the need of the pursuit if you do not have the intention of following it through? A lady, for the emotional being she is, desires compliments – though she might never ask for it. Aside that however, setting apart time to be together – on a date, to the movies…or you name it – is an indicator to your level of commitment. Plus, such acts help you to know each other better thus setting the foundation for a thriving relationship.
Communication breakdown: There’s a likelihood that two persons (that is, the partners) are together but yet far apart; this is what I term “wall between walls, and it is usually down to communication gap. Without effective communication, misunderstandings are bound to keep coming up and this could serve as a primer for a breakup. So, there’s a need for you to mean what you say and say what you mean without any form of ambiguity. You have got to make sure that your partner understands what is being said; putting the contextual meaning into perspective and always drive your point home clearly. Again, the lack of communication simply signifies negligence which could make the other person feel ’unwanted’.
Violence: This is certainly not something that should be treated with kids’ gloves, and it is quite pathetic to see certain individuals subject their partner to torture. But the irony is that some ladies feel helpless and flow along with such healthy relationship. A ‘flash of violence’ [from one’s partner] is enough warning sign that should tell anyone to disembark from an ‘emotional plane’ no matter how high into it he/she might have gone.